Patience is a Virtue

408450_478828208843421_972569284_nI’m finding more and more that my daughter has inherited my impatience. Though I don’t like to admit it, I sometimes can be a bit impatient. When I want something done, I want it done yesterday. It used to be that if I couldn’t achieve what I wanted right away, the drive to achieve it would fizzle out. However, over time and through maturity, though the impatience still exists, it is in fact at a “healthy” level. Let me clarify by saying, it is at a healthy level for those around me, as they no longer have to withstand my wrath when things don’t come so easy.

Enter daughter, who I now see has this same trait….times 10. Living in an “on demand” society tends to feed into this ugly characteristic. Being an all consumed teenager, living in an “on demand” society,who has a tendency towards impatience makes me want to call in an exorcist!! Unfortunately, I can’t help but feel slightly responsible, so in this area I try to display as much patience as possible.

About a week ago her head was ready to spin right off its shoulders and it took a lot of tongue biting and open ears to muddle through. She was in her school play this week, which was proceeded by four months of rehearsals until 5:30Pm every day. She was having a melt down because of a line in the play that she kept messing up, and just knew she was going to blow on opening night. Her solution was to just quit the play….but she didn’t stop there…she was not only quitting the play, she was quitting chorus, quitting her friends, quitting school and quitting our Origami Owl business “because nobody likes her ideas anyway”. It was a quitting extravaganza….I let her vent….I took a tylenol….I let her vent some more….

When she was all done and her head was back in a forward facing position, I simply said “do you think giving up all the things you enjoy is really going to make you feel better?” She sat and thought for a long time,…I know this pondering well, as I do it myself, its the “I know she’s right, but I have to think of a really good come back so I don’t have to admit it” ponder…..She didn’t verbally answer me, but simply gave the defeated “no” shake of the head. I then followed with, “I know it doesn’t feel like it right now, but anything worth having, is worth working really hard to have”. I got the eye roll, shrug of the shoulders and the skulking walk to her room….I believe she may have also been mumbling something under her breath, and I’m even more certain that I don’t want to know what it was. However, the next morning she got up, went to school, ate lunch with her friends and stayed once again until 5:30 to practice for the play…..and life went on.

The play went off without a hitch…she didn’t blow her line and she is back to her generally happy self…this week anyway. She came to me earlier this evening and said she had a new idea for the lockets……..

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What Will I Leave Behind?

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I must admit, there are days that I sit and wonder what my children will have to look forward to in their lifetime.  I try my best to instill morals, values, respect, responsibility, compassion… basically all the attributes that I believe will lead them to a happy, fulfilled life.  Yet, at the end of the day, living in a world full of turmoil I can’t help but wonder if what I’m doing is enough?

What I do believe, is that though I wonder, and sometimes get discouraged, if I stop hoping, believing or dreaming that the memories I’m creating will somehow inspire them to rise above the turmoil of this crazy world and become more than even they expected, that I may as well throw in the towel now.

So…I won’t stop doing what I’m doing…..even after a day that my daughters biggest epiphany is that “humans fart an average of 28 times a day”….because you just never know. What are your hopes and dreams for your children????

This is turning into a movement …

This weekend as my daughter and I sat and created lockets to give to our cousin that had her first baby on Saturday, and her mother who is a grandmother for the first time, Quinn said ” we should have Melissa and Aunt Debbie do this like you and I do this”. I chuckled and said “I think Melissa will be too busy with the baby right now to get into anything new”. She then went on to say how cool she thought it would be to have a group of mother/daughter designers like her and I working with us. I was a bit engrossed in picking out charms to really ponder the idea until later in the day.

At dinner that evening I brought up the topic again, asking her what she meant. She went on to explain that she thought it would be great to get a bunch of moms and daughters like her and I to join Origami Owl and we could be one big team. She further elaborated and noted that not only would it be “awesome” to have a team, but for that team to promote mother/daughter relationships on top of the lockets and charms. She ended with the thought that it would be even cooler if we had one team from each state!!….I sat, a bit stunned, in silence for what seemed like an hour. I couldn’t believe she had such deep thoughts and that she really valued what we are doing as much as she apparently does. I was, still am, amazed!!

With this said, though I haven’t thought through all the details yet and exactly what we will represent, am starting the movement. I will be creating yet another page in this site for mother/ daughter teams to receive information and link to signing on to the Hooting Harley team!! As details unfold, I will post them. Can’t wait to hear from anyone about what they think of this idea. My head is swirling with great intentions and ideas for how this band of women and girls can make a difference. I’m so excited!!

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Changed…..for the BETTER!!

Changed…..for the BETTER!!

So, last night there was conference call with Origami Owl, and they had a HUGE announcement for us. After listening to some insane hold music while waiting for the call to start, and my computer jumping in and out of … Continue reading